Starting Out Single
If you live by yourself, whether it be in a big house or a tiny apartment, you don’t have to answer to anyone. You do what you want when you want to do it. When you meet someone, things start to change. In the beginning, while you were dating, you were in your own living spaces. At the end of the day or night, you went to your house and they went to theirs. You each had your alone time away from each other. As things progress, you start spending more and more time together and even though you might stay overnight with them occasionally or vice versa, you still had your own separate homes independent from each other. One day, you decide to take the plunge and move in together married or not. Now things start to change a little. Now you start to learn things about each other you never knew before. Hopefully, most things will be ok but there are always things that will annoy you a little about each other. Even if just a little bit.
No Two People Are Identical
Let’s face it. No two people are identical. I don’t care how much in love you are with someone, there is always that one habit or thing that they do that you are not so keen on. I might like to do something this way and you do it that way. Neither one is right or wrong. Just different ways of doing it. There are also going to be days that do not go so well and you disagree with each other on something with a little more passion, shall we say. Big or small, it does not matter. If you wind up having one of those spirited disagreements, there is always somewhere in the house you can go to get away for a little bit until things cool down.
When living in a house or apartment, generally speaking. the average person will have friends and family living close by. They will usually work nearby and have their gym memberships, clubs they belong to, and other activities and groups they belong to close by. Each of you is doing your own thing and usually meet up together at night for dinner and relax time. You basically only see each other for a few hours a day. You each have your own routines and daily activities. Life is good.
Now one of you goes ahead and throws a monkey wrench into things by suggesting you give up your home or apartment and start living in an RV full time and traveling around the country. It sounds like an awesome thing to do and you both agree. You plan it all out ahead of time. What type of RV you will get, what type of traveling you will do (campgrounds, boondocking, or a little of both), what you will do to support yourself while traveling, how you will get your mail, where you will domicile. You covered it all and you are good to go, right? Almost. You forgot to think about one big thing. Will you be able to live with each other in something that is basically equivalent to the size of a hallway…lol.
Like everything else you have thought about and planned, this to will take some planning and thought. If you thought you knew someone before, just wait. You will learn lots of new things about each other. This does not have to be a bad thing. It might actually bring you closer together. The most important thing to think about, and hopefully you already have at this point, is to make sure that this is what both of you really want. Did you come up with the idea and kind of sell it to your partner? You both have to be on the same page with this lifestyle or it will never work. It is not for everyone.
It’s A Good Building Point
So you both are 100% for this idea, great!!!. That is a good building point. Everything else from there on should be discussed and agreed upon by both of you. All your planning should be done together. When you are deciding on an RV, you need to be in agreement on what type you will get. After all, you will be living in it. It is like buying a house. If you loved a house because it had 4 garages for all your toys and your partner loved another house because it had a huge kitchen and yard for entertaining, you would need to talk it out and decide on something you both liked. The same goes for an RV. We decided on a travel trailer for a variety of reasons. I discussed our thought process in another blog if you are interested in that story. The point is, we were both in 100% total agreement of our purchase.
Now you have your RV and you’re on the road. Woohoo, life is good. Let’s keep it that way. Let’s take a look at some things that will keep you happy for many miles down the road.
Just like when you were in a house, you will need alone time. Time to just be away from your partner. It could be something simple like going for a walk by yourself or it could be going out for the day. Maybe you met someone in the campground and you want to spend the day shopping or taking in a show. Maybe the campground you’re in has bingo or a crafts club. maybe you want to go riding with another camper you just met. Whatever it may be, doing separate activities sometimes will help keep your individualism and sanity…lol.
RV’s have super thin walls. If one of you likes watching tv and the other like reading, it would be a great idea to get headphones for the tv, computer, or radio. You can put the volume on whatever is comfortable for you without disturbing your partner. Just because you like a show, that does not mean everyone does. That goes for music too. I love to read and watch youtube videos. Chris loves TV. Headphones are the perfect solution.
When you start to talk about your next destination, decide together. We are going to workamp so some of our decision is based on where there is a job available. If there is a job available in an area your partner does not want to be in, find another area that is agreeable to both. Your lives will be miserable if you get to a place one of you does not want to be in. The same goes for sightseeing. It’s not all about you. Sometimes you have to compromise. Your partner might not be as enthused about drag racing as you are and you might not be as enthusiastic about shopping as they are. It’s all about compromise. One day of shopping will not kill you as one day of a little nitro filled drag racing will not kill them. It’s a two-way street.
Most RV’s have only one bathroom and shower. Most have very small hot water tank capacities. Work out a schedule for using the shower. Be respectful of their time. I need a very small amount of time to shower and get ready while Chris needs a little more. Maybe it’s because I have no hair…lol. Be respectful of that time. Try and make a scheduled time for each of you to use the shower. That way you will both have hot water… lol.
The Bottom Line
The bottom line is the most important thing you need to do is communicate with each other. If something is not working, talk about it. Don’t let it build up so much that one day you just explode on each other. Yelling and screaming accomplish nothing except for entertaining your neighbors…lol. Most things can be worked out with a little conversation over a glass of wine. Be separate but together. Think about it.
If you have any questions or comments or have an idea that works for you, leave it in the comment section below.